OM Circle Policy
August 14, 2016
- This document (the “OM Circle Policy”) is published by TurnON Britain and sets out the policies, procedures and protocols for hosting and attending OM Circles (“OM Circles”). The OM Circle Policy forms part of the OM Circle Manual (“OM Circle Manual“), which includes OM Circle Holders Guide. These documents are amended and updated from time to time.
- Over many years of practicing Orgasmic Meditation® (“OM”), we have found OM Circles to be an effective and enjoyable way for people to develop their OM practice.
- OM Circles (“OM Circles”) are events where there is more than one stroker-strokee pair, who have one or more OMs. There is always a holder of the OM Circle who is in charge of the circle (“OM Circle Holder” or “Holder”). One person, usually the Holder, times the OM for the group and all pairs of OMers follow the timekeeper. Full details of what constitutes an OM Circle (and what does not) and how to run an OM Circle can be found in the OM Circle Holders Guide (“OM Circle Holders Guide”).
- OM Circles are a community and participatory practice. By participating in an OM Circle, you are a participant in a community event, which is held by an OM practitioner for and with other OM practitioners.
- The OM Circle Manual is a series of documents that codifies the format of OM Circles in order to maintain the consistency of the practice of OM. This is essential to being able to do the practice anywhere and with any OM practitioner.
Essential Elements of an OM Circles
- TurnON Britain has created the OM Circle Manual to provide written resources for OM Circle Holders to hold OM Circles. These resources include compliance with steps and protocol for OM Circles. These rules set the standard for what an OM Circle is (and is not). TurnON Britain is now making the OM Circle “standards” freely available to OM practitioners to create their own OM Circles, on the condition that they comply fully with the standards. TurnON Britain sets the standards for the OM practice but is not responsible for people’s engagement with the practice itself.
- TurnON Britain is therefore not responsible in any way for the actions of OM Circle Holders, OM practitioners or third parties at OM Circles. Any OM practitioner who wishes to participate in an OM Circle does so entirely at their own risk, and will have no recourse to TurnON Britain.
- OM Circles are for persons over 18 only. No minors are ever permitted to participate or be present at OM Circles.
- OM Circles are always free for participants to attend. No OM Circle Holder may ever charge participants to attend an OM Circle.
- Every stroker and strokee in an OM Circle must arrange their own OM partners. You must arrive with a partner pre-arranged. For more on finding an OM partner, see the document “How to Find an OM Partner” in Appendix A to this document.
- Subject to strict compliance with all policies and procedures in the OM Circle Manual, OM practitioners may set up OM Circles and:
- use the words “OM Circle” to describe the circle;
- use TurnON Britain’s trademark “Orgasmic Meditation®” to describe the practice at their OM Circles; and
- use TurnON Britain’s copyrighted OM Circle Manual, including the OM Circle Holders Guide, as a resource to hold OM Circles.
- TurnON Britain creates and publishes the standards for OM Circles. However, TurnON Britain exercises no control over the conduct of OM Circles or the criteria practitioners must meet to attend them. Subject to compliance with the essential elements of an OM Circle, every OM Circle Holder determines his or her own criteria for allowing people to OM at their OM Circle. Every OM practitioner must make their own decision about whether to attend an OM Circle and should ask the OM Circle holder about the OM Circle and who participates and about compliance with the OM Circle Manual, to determine whether a particular OM Circle is for them.
- OM Circle Holders are in no way affiliated with TurnON Britain, and may not describe themselves as such. Any person holding an OM Circle does so in their personal capacity as an OM Practitioner.
Non-compliance with this Policy or the OM Circle Manual
- Non-compliance with this Policy and the OM Circle Manual by an OM Circle Holder is a serious matter. The OM Circle Manual has been designed to ensure consistency in OM Circles wherever they take place. This is essential in order to make the practice widely available in a safe, consistent manner. Any OM Circle Holder who does not comply with the OM Circle Manual puts the community-based, inclusive and welcoming character of OM Circles at great risk. Non-compliance includes:
- failure to follow the policies and procedures set out in the OM Circle Holders Guide, including failure to follow all of the steps in the “OM Circle Holder’s Guide”;
- failure to use the OM Circle Script;
- adding additional activities or steps that are not provided for in the OM Circle Holders Guide;
- failure to observe the conditions for hosting OM Circles, particularly but not limited to: permitting minors to attend or be present at an OM Circle, charging money for people to OM at OM Circles, permitting alcohol or drugs to be consumed at an OM Circle, permitting participants to attend an OM Circle while intoxicated, arranging partners for OM practitioners, permitting breaks of the Form and Container, or permitting people with no OM partner to remain in the practice space during the OMs;
- failure to observe any other conditions in the OM Circle Manual.
- Non-compliance is a serious matter. TurnON Britain reserves the right to take action against those who use the name “OM Circle” and the trademark Orgasmic Meditation® other than in accordance with the OM Circle Manual.
Participating in OM Circles
- This section is applicable to OM practitioners at all OM Circles.
- Consent is of paramount importance to the practice. When someone consents to OM, they are consenting to an OM as described in the Form and Container Document. OM practitioners must therefore adhere to the Form and Container of OM in every OM. If you feel that your stroker or strokee is not within the OM Form and Container or you are not comfortable with what is happening in the OM, it is your responsibility to make adjustments to your stroker or strokee. You may also stop an OM at any time for any reason. If your stroker or strokee asks you to make an adjustment or stop while you are OMing, it is your responsibility to do so, even if you do not believe that you are breaking the Form or the Container of the OM.
- All participants at OM Circles are required to maintain the confidentiality of the other participants. You may describe your own experiences in an OM Circle, but not those of the other participants including your stroker or strokee, unless you have their express permission to do so. You may not disclose the names or identity of other practitioners unless you have their express permission.
- To maintain the privacy of all practitioners, absolutely no filming, photography or recording during an OM Circle is permitted.
- OM Circle Holders and OM practitioners are drawn to the OM practice for many reasons and get a tremendous amount from the practice. It is our privilege to make these resources available to create more opportunities for people to experience how the OM practice can impact their lives.
How to find an OM Partner
OM always requires a partner. Who you choose as your partner is entirely up to you. Some people OM monogamously with people they’re romantically involved with . Some people are single and OM with friends. However you want your practice is completely based on your desire. We support all paths of practice. For single people who are looking for a partner, here are some helpful tips:
Your comfort in finding an OM Partner will grow with practice. When asking somebody to OM, keep the request simple. Do not mix invitations to OM with other offers (like social activities, dates or sex). This helps eliminate the expectation of providing something in return, and keeps OMing relationships clear.
How Do I Ask for an OM?
We ask for an OM in a way that reflects the reality that we are doing something together, not that one partner is doing something to or for the other.
Would you like to OM?
Will you stroke me?
Can I OM you?
Make sure to set a time and place for the OM (e.g. an OM Circle). Specificity is key.
You may have feelings arise when you ask for an OM: feelings of excitement, joy, fear, hope or desire are all normal.
How Do I Deal with Someone saying “No”?
People say “No” for many reasons. If you get a “No”, simply say “Thank You”. It is part of OM etiquette not to ask “why?” as it probably has nothing to do with you. Part of the practice is finding your “yes” and your “no” as well as accepting the same responses from others. Consent is paramount to the practice.